In Our ImageAncient Stories. Modern Lives. Familiar Struggles.
01 - Cain & Abel
Story 01·Genesis 4

Cain & Abel

What happens when someone else's success starts to feel like evidence of your own failure?
ResentmentResponsibilitySelf-deception
Movement I of IV
The story
What the text says happened, before anyone tells you what it means.
The story

Cain and Abel both bring offerings.

Abel's is accepted while Cain's is not.

Cain becomes angry, is warned, and later kills his brother.

Genesis 4:6
“And the LORD said unto Cain, Why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen?”
Movement II of IV
The pattern
What may be happening underneath the events, with each reading marked for how firmly the text supports it.
Story to psychology

What's happening underneath?

A few possible ways to read the human behavior in the story.
Abel's offering is accepted.
A plausible reading
Another person's success can become painful when we experience it as evidence of our own inadequacy.
Cain becomes angry.
Grounded in the text
Resentment can be easier than asking whether something in us needs to change.
Cain is warned before acting.
A plausible reading
There can be meaningful space between destructive emotion and destructive action.

Comparison isn't the problem.

Comparison is unavoidable.

The problem begins when comparison stops being information and starts becoming humiliation.

Resentment usually comes with an explanation.

People rarely experience themselves as simply envious.

We tend to build a story that makes our anger feel justified.

The deeper idea

Resentment becomes dangerous when another person's existence starts to feel like an accusation.

Movement III of IV
The mirror
Where the story stops being about them and starts being about you.
From the story

Lines worth sitting with.

Genesis 4:7 KJV
“If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him.”
Genesis 4:9 KJV
“And the LORD said unto Cain, Where is Abel thy brother? And he said, I know not: Am I my brother's keeper?”
The uncomfortable part

We naturally read this story as Abel.

Most of us identify with the person who was wronged.

It is harder to ask whether we have ever wanted someone else to fail because their success made us feel smaller.

What's yours?

The feeling isn't the decision.

Outside your control
  • Abel's success
  • The initial feeling of comparison
Still yours
  • What Cain dwells on
  • What he justifies
  • What he acts upon
Cain's anger is not treated as identical to his action.
The story leaves room for responsibility in what he chooses to feed and eventually do.
Movement IV of IV
What remains
The tension the story refuses to resolve, and the question it leaves with you.
The part that doesn't resolve neatly

The part that doesn't resolve neatly

The text does not fully explain why one offering is accepted and the other is not.

That ambiguity matters because it leaves part of Cain's grievance unresolved.

Sit with this

When someone else succeeds at something you deeply care about, what determines whether that feeling becomes motivation or resentment?